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Exercise your Super Power

July 10, 2022 Melanie Hawken

by Safiyyah Boolay-Jappie

“Choosing” is the most important activity of your mind. "Choosing" is the most important activity of your mind. Yes, I wrote that twice. Because it is that important. I'll write it again. "Choosing" is the most important activity of your mind. Whether you are exercising choice in the moment or in respect of the bigger picture, choice is a proclamation to your subconscious mind and a prayer to the universe. Choice is the mechanism with which you harness and focus your resources and it is how you collaborate and co-create with forces beyond the comprehension of your logical mind.

Once the subconscious mind gets to know your desires, intentions and decisions as birthed by your choices, it will marshal all the resources you have at hand to do what must be done and to create what is needed, and for you to become what you must to make your choice manifest. However, incrementally your subconscious mind will piece it together, it will do what must be done, as long as it is clear on its mandate.

The potency of choice arise from the level of clarity and conviction with which you make your choices. Choice is easily diluted and overridden by the unseen and ever-present forces of fear. We call them indecision, perfectionism, imposter syndrome, self-doubt, people pleasing and countless other names. They are emotional and mental constructs that takes our minds away from choosing our desires and alignment. They anchor us to the defaults of our circumstances and the demands of our environment. They persuade us that we are without choice, by seducing us into the choice of distraction and destruction.

"Choosing" is the most important activity of your mind. This "choosing" serves you best when you are in conversation with yourself. When you contemplate what is important to you and in alignment with your true desires, purposes and aptitudes.

One of the most frequent choices we make is to abdicate our choice-making. We consciously or unconsciously defer to others to make choices for us. Or we make our choices in accordance within a framework that we inherited from our environments despite the fact that they feel like a strait jacket inducing us to stress, anxiety, overwhelm, burnout, and even depression. according to what we think is ‘correct’, even if that means that we go against our wishes.

"Choosing" is the most important activity of your mind. It’s a reflection of the relationship you are in with yourself. Choose in consultation with your heart, your soul, and the wealth of wisdom that lives in your body. Choose from a place of being present to yourself. Choose from a place courage.

Keep is simple Sweetheart!

Daydream and muse about the life you'd love, the next thing you want to do, create, or experience.

Make a list of things which interest you; things which you have always enjoyed, which make you feel better, which inspire you to surge ahead, no matter what obstacles you face.

  • Do you like doing something creative, or something artistic? Fashion, design, throwing together a party? Playing an instrument? Telling jokes?

  • Do you enjoy nature? Do you like the sea? The deep green forest? Mountains that fill you with awe?

  • Do you enjoy helping others? Do you get pleasure out of making a difference in other people’s life?

Do you know what you like? Too many of us don't. Do you know what you want? Even fewer of us don’t.

  • Whatever it is that interests you, write it down and answer these questions: What thing do you love to do?

  • What is it that you love in this thing and why?

  • Could you do this for money, and make a living out of it?

  • Do you even want to? That's your choice!

Choice is your super power. It's the most important thing you can do in the moment and in the Big Picture. It is how you claim your destiny from the clutches of your environment and your fears.


Safiyyah Boolay-Jappie is a life coach, based in South Africa. She helps high achieving, ambitious women to create impactful careers without sacrificing their well-being, themselves, their relationships, and quality of life. She helps women to beat burnout and to thrive. Having worked in the corporate world for 20 years, most of these in complex leadership roles whilst raising two children, she understands the demands being juggled by professional women, both in their professional and personal lives. Today, she wants to share those learnings with other women through her personal coaching and training.

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