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A Life Worth Living  

February 6, 2022 Melanie Hawken

by Elizandra dos Santos

Living is the biggest challenge that human beings face, and most of them exist and are driven by the feeling of fear. Fear is not bad if it is used as a feeling that moves us to take action, which is not the case I am referring to in this article. I speak of fear as a paralyzing feeling, a feeling that makes us uneasy, no matter if it is in our imagination or real facts.


It is very normal for people to be afraid of snakes, dogs, wolves, and others because it is a natural feeling of human beings, and often this feeling is derived from things that were told to us in childhood and that are not real or bad events that end up turning into trauma.

One must be very careful because it causes suffering, harms physical and mental health, and can even cause us frustration. The nervous system is automatically out of control, the heartbeat is accelerated and increasingly affects all existing systems in the human body. You get a rash that you can't hide and people around you realize you're very nervous. At this time fear tends to increase when we realize that everyone knows we are afraid, as our mind can be destructive when misused.

People plan their schedule, what they should and not say, but at the right time, thet block due to excessive nervousness, which ends up meaning they do absolutely nothing. They feel defeated for not having been able to express their message and that makes them feel unhappy.

Does this situation define you? Clearly not, but it's important that we do this exercise of realizing that a situation doesn't define who we are. It can help us find points in us that need improvement, like learning to speak in public. So, if I have difficulties in public speaking instead of crucifying myself for not having done so well in that presentation, I can choose to look for Professor João Ndala from Indispensável to help me overcome this particular issue.

Fear is part of life and if this feeling did not exist, life would cease to be life and would be gone. The biggest problem is when we make it an addiction and associate it with other situations such as low self-esteem, depression, and insecurity. It is necessary that we know how to discern our real and illusory feelings, awareness is the first step towards healing. If you are facing a dilemma how to deal with your fear, and if you are not using the resources you have at your disposal, I recommend that you look for an expert who can help you to overcome this problem.

At this stage, avoid being around people who lower their energy frequency, remember that your mental health should always be your first priority. Anything that bothers you and you don't express for fear of losing someone or displeasing can in the long run bring you various mental and physical health problems. Remember, a quiet mind means an organized and happy life!

Thank you so much for walking with me this far, until the next trip in this wonderful world of self-knowledge.


Uma vida que vale a pena ser vivida

by Elizandra dos Santos / Portuguese version

Viver é o maior desafio que o ser humano enfrenta, sendo que a sua maioria existe e é movido pelo sentimento do medo. O medo não é ruim se for utilizado como um sentimento que nos move a partir para ação que não é este caso a que me refiro neste artigo. Falo do medo como sentimento paralisante, aquele sentimento que deixa-nos inquietos, não importando se é uma imaginação ou factos reais.


É muito normal que as pessoas sintam medo de cobras, cão, lobos e outros mais porque é um sentimento natural do ser humano e muitas vezes esse sentimento é derivado de coisas que nos foram contadas na infância e que não são reais ou de acontecimentos ruins que acabam se transformando em trauma.

Deve-se ter muito cuidado porque, este causa sofrimento, prejudica a saúde fisica e mental e pode ainda causar-nos frustrações.

O sistema nervoso automaticamente descontrola-se, o batimento cardíaco fica acelerado e cada vez mais afecta todos os sistemas existentes no corpo do ser humano.

Você fica todo precipitado que não consegue disfarçar e as pessoas ao seu redor apercebem-se que estás muito nervoso. Nessa hora o medo tende aumentar quando nos apercebemos que todos sabem que temos medo, pois como a nossa mente pode ser destrutiva quando mal usada.

O homem planifica a sua agenda, o que deve e não falar, mas na hora H, ele bloqueia pelo excesso de nervosismo, que termina não fazendo absolutamente nada.

Sente-se derrotado por não ter conseguido expressar a sua mensagem e isso faz sentir-se uma pessoa infeliz.

Será que esta situação o define? Claramente que não, mas é importante fazermos este exercício de percebermos que uma situação não define quem somos. Mas pode sim ajudar-nos a encontrar pontos em nós que precisam ser melhorados, como aprender a falar em público. Então se eu tenho dificuldades em falar em público ao invés de me crucificar por não ter me saído tão bem naquela apresentação, posso optar por procurar o professor João Ndala da Indispensável para ajudar-me a superar essa questão em particular.

O medo faz parte da vida e se não existisse este sentimento a vida deixaria de ser vida e passaria a ser ida. O maior problema é quando fazemos dele um vício e associamos a outras situações como a baixa autoestima, depressão e a insegurança. É necessário que saibamos discernir os nossos sentimentos reais e ilusorios, a consciência é o primeiro passo para a cura. Caso esteja a enfrentar algum dilema como saber lidar com o seu medo, e se não estiver a ser funcional usar os recursos que tem à disposição, recomendo que procure um especialista que lhe possa ajudar a superar este problema.

Nesta fase evite estar próximo de pessoas que baixam a sua frequência energetica, lembre-se que a sua saúde mental deve ser sempre a sua primeira prioridade.

Tudo aquilo que lhe incomoda e você não exprime por medo de perder alguém ou desagradar pode a longo prazo lhe trazer vários problemas de saúde mental e física.

Mente tranquila, vida organizada e feliz!

Muito obrigada por ter caminhado comigo até aqui, até a próxima viagem neste maravilhoso mundo do autoconhecimento.


Elizandra Dos Santos is a specialist in Personal and Emotional Development. She is an entrepreneur and Co-author of the book Extraordinary Women. Her training areas of expertise are in Positive Psychology and Emotional Intelligence, Life and Executive Coaching, Commercial Management and Marketing, DISC Analyst and High Impact Trainer. Elizandra is currently a Psychoanalysis student and licensed at Janela do Empreendedor in Angola. Contact Elizandra via her website www.elizandradossantos.com

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