Guest Post by: Tumi Frazier, founder of Tumi Frazier International
To achieve balance in your life, you need to change the way you think about and use your time. Too many events often fill our days leaving us completely exhausted. We sleep but do not rest because we are exhausted in more ways than one - physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually; hence we suffer from emotional, mental breakdowns including all kinds of illnesses caused by stress and anxiety. Here are 3 things you can try to get a better balance in your life.
The fact of the matter is that true success cannot be relegated to one division of life; without balance, success can be short-lived.
An individual who succeeds in business but fails in personal relationships, or dies young due to a work-induced heart attack, can hardly be called successful. Wholesomeness and success in every area of life are generally traits not found in those who are extreme.
"There is absolutely nothing wrong with striving and achieving; the problem is when it takes over your life."
When your business or your career becomes your entire identity; or when loved ones, family and friends start saying you are not spending time with them. When you fail to even realize that you are depleted, it is at this point that you need to recognize you are heading for trouble.
Always remember that a large percentage of your happiness in life stems from your personal relationships. Your interactions and the time you spend with those you care about, the service you offer to society, and the value you add to other people’s lives, will be your major source of joy and satisfaction you derive in life. Whereas, the minor percentage of your happiness will actually come from your accomplishments.
To achieve balance, you need to change the way you think about and use your time. Managing your activities, rather than managing time, will improve your ability to live a balanced life. Ultimatelu, we cannot control or manage time because it passes at its own pace, but the most sensible thing to do is manage our activities to fit into the time we have been allocated.
It is important to remember that you are of limited use to anyone else when you are depleted.
So, here are 3 suggestions in order to restore the balance in your life:
1. Pause and put expectations and schedules aside so you can recharge. It is in the stillness that life and the creativity takes place, not in the rat race.
2. Learn to identify and enjoy things that are truly priceless; find beauty in things that cost nothing, for example, a baby’s laughter, the breathtaking beauty of nature, the comfort of a father’s arm, the smell of fresh air, the sound of a great song being played, enjoying the company of a friend or someone special, and the satisfaction of serving others.
3. Pause to appreciate what you have, and also who you have in your life to share your accomplishments with.
Tumi Frazier is a South African entrepreneur, professional speaker, author, TV personality, consultant, and founder of Tumi Frazier International, Tumi Leadership Academy, and Tumi Foundation. Tumi is an internationally acclaimed Leadership and Change Management expert who has worked with high profile clients and organizations across Africa, United States and Europe. Tumi has authored 4 books: Courageous Stories of Inspiration; In the Midst of the Storm; Stepping Stones to Success; and Your Moment. Follow Tumi Twitter | LinkedIn